While it seems that everyone is rearranging their homes, creating exercise routines at home, or perfecting the art of baking yeast bread during quarantine, there are many others who are sleeping, watching television programs or just doing it every day.
And that's fine.
That's according to Toronto clinical psychologist Vivien Lee, which states that people deal differently with the stress and anxiety of events such as the current global pandemic of COVID-19.
"Right now, everyone's needs are different," she told CTVNews.ca during a telephone interview on Wednesday.
“Many people are working from home, many are taking care of children. We don't have our regular coping strategies available, like going to a gym or seeing friends, and that's a lot of stress and uncertainty right now. It's okay to spend the day. "
For some people, Lee said that staying active and busy with tasks or hobbies can help them have some control over their lives when so much going on in the world is beyond their control.
For others, however, the changes can seem overwhelming and need time to process on their own or with loved ones.
"For many people, it's just a stressful time," said Lee. "Perhaps you have children or other family members who are very concerned and just want to focus on that moment in bonding and relaxing and just trying to get over it together."
Michelle Cederberg, a professional speaker and a health and productivity expert, he agrees that, for many people, the prospect of this new "normal" lasting weeks or months may be difficult to understand. She said that people who may have been motivated to perform many neglected tasks or hobbies three weeks ago, when the quarantine started, may be adjusting their expectations now.
"I think a lot of us are really aware that all of this is weighing on us and how the last thing I'm going to think about is learning a new language," she said during a telephone interview from Calgary on Wednesday. . "COVID-19 and everything connected to it, is a high-stress experience."
Cederberg said that while some people may naturally have a greater tolerance for stress or may have more time on their hands if they don't have children or are not working from home, she said that others may simply not have the time or the ability to start new projects or learn new skills or hobbies right now.
"Because stress creates a lot of cortisol, the stress hormone and cortisol and creativity don't necessarily coexist so well, we won't necessarily have the bandwidth to do something new," she said.
For Gary Direnfeld, Hamilton, Ontario social worker, the goal for this quarantine period in the midst of the pandemic should not be about how much people can accomplish, but how they can best overcome it.
"For those who may feel guilty for not doing things, understand that the goal is to survive and everything you can do to achieve that goal, instead of doing things, you are already ahead of the game," he said. to CTVNews. during a telephone interview on Wednesday.
ACCEPTANCE OF DIFFERENT COPING STRATEGIES
While some people may be feeling guilty that they are not achieving as much as their friends sharing achievements on social media, Lee said it is important to remember that people do not tend to share household or mundane tasks, such as making a bed or helping their child learn the alphabet, which should be considered achievements alone.
"We know that a lot of people look at social media before all this and feel bad that they are not adequate enough, not beautiful enough, good enough and it is really difficult to recognize that this is not the reality for most people" she said.
Lee said people should take a little time off and acknowledge their achievements, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. She also said that they should have time for pleasure, whether watching a movie or exercising or being alone, during these moments of uncertainty.
Cederberg agrees that it is okay for people to be "kind and kind" to themselves during this stressful time.
"I'm not suggesting that we just curl up and watch Netflix until it's over, but I think we have to be a little bit simpler in our approach to what success will look like during that time," she said.
The wellness expert said it might be healthy to try something new and out of their comfort zone, but they should start small and focus on something that really interests them.
"If you are thinking that I should learn a new language or I should Marie Kondo in my lockers, or I should write a book or I should, should, should, this is putting unnecessary pressure on yourself," she explained.
Direnfeld's advice is even simpler. He said that people should just talk to someone, someone, be it their partner, their children, a religious leader or someone working for a helpline, that they should contact.
"Many people maintain their fears and, as a result, those fears are rotting and making people nervous, creating mental health problems for them and problems in their relationships," he said. "You can also recognize that you're not looking for guidance or advice in return, just to be heard, just to give a voice to what you're carrying inside."
Direnfeld said that people should strive to listen to each other during this period and recognize that everyone is going through this experience in their own way.
"We have to give each other permission to have different strategies and not be ashamed, or stick to one strategy over another," he said. "We want to be compassionate with each other as we move forward."